Introduction

Baseball is a game of adjustments. The best players aren’t the ones who stubbornly try to prove themselves—they’re the ones who are willing to learn, adapt, and grow. But too often, players get caught up in trying to prove themselves rather than doing what actually helps them succeed.

Think about a hitter who refuses to change their stance even though they keep striking out. Or a pitcher who won’t listen to coaching advice because they’re convinced their way is the best way. These players aren’t focused on improving; they’re focused on protecting their ego. And that mindset can hold them back from reaching their full potential.

Just like in life, baseball rewards players who can adjust. If you're always trying to prove yourself, you're not learning. And if you're not learning, you're not getting better.

So, why do we fall into this trap, and how can we break free?

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The Problem with Always Trying to Prove Yourself

It stops you from making adjustments. Imagine you’re in a slump. You keep swinging at pitches out of the strike zone, rolling over on ground balls, or getting fooled by off-speed pitches. A coach tells you to tweak your approach—maybe shorten your swing, be more patient, or change your stance. But instead of listening, you insist, “I know what I’m doing. I just need to keep swinging harder.”

What happens? You keep striking out.

Baseball is a game of constant adjustments. If you refuse to change because you want to prove yourself, you’ll never break out of that slump. The best hitters in the game constantly adjust based on what the pitcher is doing, how their swing feels, and what’s working in the moment.

The same goes for pitchers. Say you keep throwing fastballs, convinced that you can blow it past hitters. But they keep sitting on your fastball and crushing it. If you refuse to mix in off-speed pitches because you "know" your fastball is enough, you're setting yourself up for failure.

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It Hurts Your Relationship with Coaches and Teammates

Nobody likes a teammate who won’t listen. If you’re always trying to prove yourself, it means you’re not open to feedback. And in a team sport like baseball, that can cause problems.

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Your coach’s job is to help you improve, but if you ignore their advice just because you don’t want to admit you’re wrong, you’re missing out on valuable coaching. Teammates also respect players who are willing to listen, learn, and make adjustments. If you’re always shutting down suggestions because you think you know best, you might find yourself isolated on the team.

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Great players don’t just play for themselves—they play for the team. And that means being open to feedback and willing to change when necessary.

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It Adds Unnecessary Pressure

Baseball is already a mental game. When you step into the batter’s box, stand on the mound, or play defense, the last thing you need is extra pressure on yourself. But when you’re obsessed with proving yourself, you create even more stress.

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Let’s say you told your teammates you were going to hit a home run, and now you feel like you have to do it just to prove yourself. Instead of focusing on having a good at-bat, you start swinging too hard and chasing bad pitches. That pressure makes it even harder to succeed.

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Or maybe you argued with your coach about how to throw a certain pitch. Now, every time you throw that pitch, you’re more worried about being right than actually executing the pitch. That kind of pressure takes you out of the moment and hurts your performance.

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Baseball is a game where failure happens all the time. The best players fail to get on base by hitting the ball 7 out of 10 times. If you’re focused on proving yourself, every mistake feels like a personal attack instead of just part of the game.

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Why Do We Feel the Need to Prove Ourselves?

Ego Gets in the Way

In baseball, confidence is important—but there’s a difference between confidence and arrogance. Confidence means believing in yourself while still being open to learning. Arrogance means thinking you already have all the answers.

Players who refuse to make adjustments because they think they “know better” are often hurting their own chances of success. The best players in the world - Mike Trout, Mookie Betts, Clayton Kershaw -are constantly learning and making changes to improve their game. If they can admit they don’t know everything, so can you.

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Fear of Looking Weak or Bad

A lot of players don’t want to admit they’re wrong because they think it makes them look weak. But in reality, the strongest athletes are the ones who can admit their mistakes and fix them.

Think about the best fielders in the game. If they make an error, they don’t blame the grass or the umpire. They acknowledge what went wrong, learn from it, and move on. That’s the mindset that leads to improvement.

We Get Stuck in Old Habits

Sometimes, we try to prove ourselves simply because we’re used to doing things a certain way. Maybe you’ve always gripped your bat a certain way, or you’ve always thrown a certain pitch in a certain count. Even if it’s not working anymore, it feels comfortable, so you don’t want to change. ​But baseball is a game of constant adaptation. If something isn’t working, the sooner you recognize it and adjust, the better off you’ll be.

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How to Let Go and Focus on Improvement

Be Open to Coaching

Your coaches want you to succeed. Instead of seeing their advice as criticism, view it as an opportunity to get better. Even the best players in the world have hitting and pitching coaches. If they can take advice, so can you.

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Focus on What Works, Not on Being Right

Instead of trying to prove that your way is the best way, focus on what actually works. If changing your approach helps you hit better, who cares if your original stance felt “right”? The goal isn’t to be right—the goal is to get results.

Learn from Every At-Bat and Every Play

Every time you step on the field, there’s something to learn. If you get out, ask yourself: What happened? Was I chasing pitches? Was my timing off? If you make an error, don’t beat yourself up. Figure out what you can do differently next time.

Great players use failure as feedback. They don’t waste energy proving they were right about something that didn’t work. They learn, adjust, and move forward.

Don’t Be Afraid to Admit Mistakes

Nobody plays a perfect game. The sooner you accept that, the easier it becomes to improve. If you try to cover up mistakes instead of learning from them, you’re only holding yourself back. It's been reported that Edison famously said “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” 

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Conclusion

Baseball is a game that rewards players who can adapt. If you’re always trying to prove yourself, you’re not giving yourself the chance to grow. The best players aren’t the ones who never make mistakes—they’re the ones who learn from them.

So next time you feel yourself resisting change just to protect your ego, take a step back. Ask yourself: "Do I want to be right, or do I want to be better?"  As Morpheus states in the 1999 movie The Matrix:

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“You take the blue pill, the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe

whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland,

and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.”

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Ultimately, the choice is up to you...

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